Szerintem ez már annyiszor bejön az utcámba, hogy kezdenem kellett vele valamit (klasszikus coaching-kérdések: “Akarsz róla beszélni? Miklós, mondd, hogyan szól ez rólad? Miklós, hallom, amit mondasz, de nem értem… Most mi történik, Miklós?” – ja? Lerúgtam a coachot bennem a lépcsőn…)
Rendszeresen előjön a LOA, a Law of Attraction, a vonzás törvénye, főleg az amerikai anyagokban. Ma reggel az egyik angol LinkedIn csoportban találtam egy LOA témát, amiben valaki, aki ezzel dolgozik, meg akarja győzni magát, vagy mi fene, kérdez másokat, hogy ők hogy vannak vele. Mintha sales-pitch szövegért házalna, vagy tényleg már maga is megingott a pure LOA-ban, mindegy is, ennek kapcsán jutott eszembe ez a comment, amit oda is beírtam, de olyan jól össze lett szedve, tömör, hogy gondoltam, ide beörökítem (a fórum anyagát nem lehet kilinkelni, mert zárt csoport, nincs többről szó, mint hogy “Ti hogy vagytok az LOA-val? Én használom, szeretem…”).
Bocs, ez angolul van, kérésre lefordítom…:-)))
Negative thinking thread, all the problem-languages, problem-focusing are, of course, obstacles in life... It's sooo widespread (of course, depending on cultures, in my local field, it's even more emphasized than the average)...
From this point of view, all these enlightening, loosening concepts which want to dissolve these heavy binds are welcome... then comes the other pole: you will have what you want... other pole of b....t-scale...
As time goes by, I more and more convinced that the proportion we apply in the different dimensions of our life are the most important (not necessarily of the "golden middle" of Aristotle but something similar)...
so... that's what I can imagine ("on my map"), the "right proportion" (for us as an individuum) as a resource if we learn to turn upside down the first mentioned three things (negative thoughts, problem-focus, problem-language) into positive thoughts, solution-focus and solution-language. Speaking on the problem-language you will find problems, speaking on the solution-language you will find solutions and finding the solution (especially where the human psy is a factor) is not necessarily bound to the very detailed familiarity with the problem ... In this context I am totally fan of the basic premises of these enlightening and "positive" approaches...
We should also think about our future as colourful as possible to motivate ourselves, we are to show up to the opportunities, we are to search for these opportunities while we are up to prepare ourselves to be more apt, capable and skilled in order that when the opportunities are arising we will be ready.... what might remains it is only the implementation work on our skills, capability will follow and hence we will be able full exploit our opportunities...
It's useful if we are open to the world around us, if we are working on ourselves to be antifragile, if we are ready to learn and to act from the future as it emerges... I don't know much very closely what LOA is but if and in the masure it helps to support this development it should be a good thing...
Szilágyi Miklós - coaching.szm@gmail.com